The Absolute Beginner’s Guide to Booking with Me
Updated: Sep 14
Booking a date with me is not actually complicated, but being new to this world can be so overwhelming & confusing. Every independent companion has their own flair and way they like to run things, so I figure it doesn’t hurt to split my process into digestible bite sized pieces. After all, these engagements work best when we both arrive informed, aligned, and ready to enjoy ourselves, so consider this your beginner-friendly guide to completing my own booking process with ease.
Detail-oriented nerds (me) can turn anything into a 25-step ordeal, but truly, there are only five essentials you need to make it happen with me.
Still, because I apparently cannot help myself, I included a diagram of the entire ordeal below… for the visual learners. If you're a reader, don't fret! I've also written a multi-chapter guide, see further below.
If you're an auditory learner, you're in luck! I've personally narrated my own podcast episo.. Ok, that one was a lie.
Scroll past this if you hate it & think it's scary. (Note: Click on photo. Also, this entire blog post is formatted much better on a laptop vs a phone.)
Figure 1: A highly scientific illustration of a very good idea.
Table of Contents
Chapter I. Do Your Required Readings!
Vetting Me: How To Deep Dive
Vetting is an important part of finding any companion. For your safety, please never skip this step. It helps you confirm that I am a real, legitimate provider while giving you a better sense of who I am and whether we may be compatible. You can do this many ways, but I will demonstrate a few methods with myself.
My BlueSky is regularly updated with personal notes, photos, and interactions with members of our community. My voice is consistent on my social media, just like it is on my website + ads, and like it will be in communication with you. BSky is my main social media, but I am also an annoying Reddit poster when I'm on the train, at the airport, or waiting in lines.
The site you are on now is an information goldmine. About 98% of questions regarding who I am, how I work, and what I offer can be answered by spending time going through it. There is a LOT of material on here and I write it all myself; there's typos to prove it. And an excessive amount of photos (I'm indecisive). Within this site, I clearly outline my policies & practices because I am a real person has put thought to this, and it is not in my favor to blindside you. Every companion you ever meet should have an obvious vested interest in keeping themselves safe, protecting their financial interests, & being transparent with you about that. Otherwise, I would question... a lot.
At the bottom of the site, you will find links to the advertising platforms where I am listed. I am on one big one and a lot of little ones (which you should check out!). The information is consistent across each one, and I have been age-verified by their teams on all. You can also Google my phone number; I should be the only person who appears.
When you are ready to book, I'm professional in my interactions with some real personality peeking through. If you have specific needs you would like to discuss, you are also welcome to book a consultation by phone call, text, or video. Once you have had a proper look around and feel confident that I am real, reputable, and intriguing, the next question is whether we are actually a match.
Chapter II. The Chemistry Check
The Compatibility Test
If you are looking for a quick, straightforward, open-the-door-and-leave-within-an-hour experience, I am definitely not the right fit for you. There are excellent providers who specialize in convenience, but that is not the kind of date I personally offer.
What I want is time to meet you, get to know one another, build a slow burn, and eventually continue our salacious time privately. That first half is important to me; it allows me to build trust, comfort, & ensure that we both have a satisfying pleasurable experience to follow. This is not something I care to rush through, so I require a two-hour minimum. And with more time, we have even more room to explore physically, mentally, and emotionally.
Logistically, I need advance notice to reserve time in my calendar, so I do not offer same-day meetings. I also require screening and either a deposit or an incall fee to protect myself, that reserved time, and cover the room and/or travel arrangements. My screening and deposit policies are outlined under “Etiquette.” If those arrangements do not work for you, there are many wonderful providers whose process may be a better fit. A proper assessment of compatibility includes expectations, boundaries, and boring logistics!
If you can check these boxes and are excited about what I offer, then yes! We can make awesome fun come to life. But now it’s time to consider, when? And where?
Chapter III. The Research Phase
When? Deciding A Date and Time
Check your calendar for a few ideal windows, then consider how long you would like to spend together (and whether you may want the option to extend our date if you’re having too much fun). My schedule is generally flexible, so I prefer to work around your availability when I can!
That said, more notice always gives me a better chance of being able to accommodate your request.
As a general guide for new friends:
2 days’ notice is decent
2 weeks’ notice is great
More than 2 weeks’ notice is fantastic
A few times a year, during busy periods, my calendar can fill several weeks in advance; I share updates on BlueSky when that’s happening.
Where? Deciding Your Location
In the Bay Area? Perfect. Look at us, already so compatible! I’m based in San Francisco and Berkeley. If you would prefer to meet elsewhere in the Bay, I am happy to travel to those surrounding cities as long as round-trip transportation is covered & hotels in that area are a fit for me (discussed below). I have included long-distance travel cost estimates on my ‘Etiquette’ page for reference.
Outside the Bay Area? I am not touring regularly at the moment, but you are welcome to bookmark me for a future trip to the Bay! Or, you can consider a Fly Me To You (FMTY) date, where you arrange travel for me to join you. It’s a super fancy-pants & impressive move. FMTY arrangements include my travel, accommodations, and my rate (with a 4-hour minimum), details on my ‘Rates’ page.
How? Choosing Incall or Outcall
Incall: You come to me.
We’ll choose our hotel room together, and I will reserve it in my name to protect your privacy. For our shared comfort, I require a four-star hotel or above.** Beyond that baseline, I will send options that vary by price, neighborhood, bed size, parking, and any other details that matter to you. Once you choose, you’ll send the incall fee (the cost of the room), I will make the reservation, and send you the confirmation!
Outcall: I come to you.
If you already have a hotel room, or plan to reserve one that meets my requirements, that’s great! Your deposit protects the time I spend traveling to you and is applied toward your total gift. I will just plan to meet you downstairs, and we can set the stage for a lovely time together. On the day of, please make sure both you and your room are clean, tidy, and ready for my arrival; because you are a gentleman, of course!
Chapter IV: The Booking
Building an Inquiry
Great! You have done the research and are ready to inquire. Start by telling me a little about yourself, in whatever way feels natural, then put it all together by letting me know:
Include...
When: Your preferred date(s) and time(s)
Where: The city / area you'd like to meet in
How: Incall or outcall
How long: Your proposed date length
My contact form includes fields for this information, so that will be the easiest template to follow.
If you prefer to reach out via email or text, including all of these details from the start helps keep things super clean & easy! I can quickly check my calendar and confirm availability, or suggest an alternative. Without them, I don’t really know whether I am available for your request and we’ll spend much more time going back and forth, which delays the entire booking process, thus possibly preventing me from being able to reserve your desired date. It's happened before. Sad face!
Message Two: Screening
Once we confirm that a date and time may work, I will ask for your screening materials. Send them over, I will review what I need to review, and then I will get back to you with the next step. Easy!
For additional privacy, you are welcome to send screening information to my end-to-end encrypted email: datelozenge@proton.me. You may also ask for my Telegram handle so we can use Secret Chat (also E2EE).
The easiest way to expedite the booking process is to include screening in your first message, but I do not require it.
Message Three: Deposit
You have been screened, we've found a time that works, and I feel comfortable moving forward! The last step is confirming where we will meet.
For an incall, I will send you those previously mentioned hotel-room options. You choose your preferred room, send the incall fee, and I will reserve it and forward the confirmation.
For an outcall, let me know where you will be staying, I make sure it’s up to my “code,” and confirm your preferred deposit method with me. Your 20% deposit secures my travel time and is applied toward your total gift. Once that is handled…
Boom! You have a date! And yes, I am excited to meet you… because someone who respects my process, communicates clearly, and puts care into the details, is exceptionally sexy to me.
Chapter V: The Payoff
Hi there! It's nice to meet you.
Within 24 hours of our date, I will confirm all details once more with you.
On the day of our date, I will meet you at a place we choose together: a hotel bar, a nearby restaurant, a café, a quiet corner of the lobby, whatever feels right & fits your discretionary needs. We will have a little conversation and settle in together for at least fifteen minutes, until however long feels natural. My goal is really just to get a glimpse of the inner world of the person I am spending time with. I’ll learn some interesting tidbits about you, you can get a taste of my personality, and together we’ll ease into the action.
After we’ve connected on that foundational level, we can walk hand in hand to our room and enjoy the rest of our silly yummy time together. And I really do hope you enjoy yourself!
P.S. If you are under 30, and snuck your way in here… there is maybe a chance. I recognize that maturity can take many forms. To be considered, you will need 2 references of professional providers, and full ID + work verification screening (LinkedIn, company page, or business card) OR a booking of at least 3 to 4 hours, and full ID + work verification screening (LinkedIn, company page, university affiliation, or business card).
**I have found that staff at hotels of this caliber and above, maintain professional courtesy and respect guests’ privacy the most. During my stay, I am simply enjoying a private date with my private lover :)
